A Daughter's Quest for Her Mother's Approval

I am pleased to share one of the testimonials about my client and her mom and how my coaching helped her with her emotional crises.

“For years, my life revolved around pleasing my mother. I took on responsibilities, sacrificed my freedom, and endured blame and criticism, despite having good intentions. My mother’s opinions dictated my choices, even in relationships, as I feared disappointing her.

I can't help but wonder why I faced this. My mother was proud and manipulative, often misrepresenting me because of my straightforwardness and loudness. I tried to be the best daughter I could be.

You have counselled me on this topic a lot. Just two days ago, I had a realization: no matter how much I do, she may never truly see or acknowledge my efforts.

I now truly believe that I gave my best in every situation. While I may not have been a perfect mother or wife, I can confidently say that I have been a very good daughter. This realization brings tears to my eyes—finally, I’ve reached this point of clarity.

I find myself feeling detached from my mom—not out of anger or resentment, but with a sense of neutrality. Her actions no longer affect me; I no longer feel hurt or wounded by them. Instead, I’ve embraced a calm detachment. I still hold deep respect for her, but something within me has shifted. This feeling is entirely new to me—I’ve never experienced it before.

For the first time, I’m no longer striving to please her, win her approval, or make her happy. The weight of that constant effort is gone. I feel unburdened, lighter, and genuinely happier, as though I’ve finally released the need to seek validation from anyone else.

I’m learning so much from you, Madhuri. Though I’ve said it before, I can’t find the words to fully express my gratitude. I’m absorbing and applying everything I’ve learned, and the results have been truly amazing. 🙏👍”